If you’re an adult with parents who are getting older, you realize, before your parents would, that their need for support is growing. Sadly, it’s not always easy to figure out the best way to provide support. Your mom and dad might feel that an increased level of support is a sign of them giving up their independence. Often children are not sure what would be best for their parents – to take full responsibility over their needs and schedules despite their objections, or do the opposite and allow them complete autonomy until they realize they need help on their own.
Of course, a better approach is probably a happy medium, at least at the beginning. While you work on gradually introducing more occasions when you take care of them, you still need to give them an opportunity to feel independent and take care of themselves. But how can you know they are doing it well?
Here are 3 ways to help you make sure your parents are caring for themselves.
1. HELP WITH AN EASY ROUTINE THAT LEADS TO A FEELING OF ACCOMPLISHMENT
Creating a weekly routine is one of the best ways to make sure your parents are taking care of themselves. It doesn’t have to be anything big or complicated. It can be a consistent time that allows them to get things done without worrying whether they will have time the next day or not because they know they have a regular time that they can look forward to. For example, it can be as simple as taking the evening to do some housework. Having a regular time for tasks that don’t require extra effort but can still provide them with a sense of purpose is a great feeling.
2. ENCOURAGE THEM TO STAY SOCIALLY ACTIVE AND INVOLVED
Our social environment is what keeps us going as we wrote earlier. And once established social connections get lost when your older parents retire, are widowed or divorced, it’s easy for them to start feeling lonely or excluded. There is nothing wrong with staying at home, but it’s important for you to encourage them to find new ways to stay connected to friends, family, and community. Encourage them to create social circles, join clubs or volunteer for activities that are meaningful to them. These are all great ways to stay active and connected. Another option to consider is to have a home care agency like ours arrange for a caregiver who would provide companionship and socialization and usually become a dear friend.
3. ENSURE IT’S EASY FOR THEM TO STAY HEALTHY
A disciplined approach to health care makes a big difference as your parents get older. It’s possible for seniors who are left to their own devices to get overwhelmed with their illness or forget about doctor’s appointments, etc. That’s why it’s important to make sure they have an easy system to take care of their health. Check if they have medication they can take without anyone’s observation. Encourage them to get a medical organizer book to not only keep track of their appointments but also to make any notes about what they should prepare ahead of time or bring to the appointment. And most importantly, help them stay safe by ensuring they have access to a phone to call you or another dedicated caregiver at any time.
Once the three aspects we discussed above are addressed, it will be easier for you to have some peace of mind about your parents for a while. However, there is one last piece we need to add to the puzzle, and that is to check on them frequently. If everything goes well with your mom and dad’s independent routine, it will just show them that you are in their life and you care. If something goes wrong, it will give you a chance to notice it quickly and arrange for help.
Dear North Oakland Caregivers Clients and Families,
We have been following the recent events of the corona virus very closely. We have been keeping informed of best practices for our caregivers and clients regarding this virus and sharing them with all our caregivers. Besides the guidance we are getting through our Michigan Home Health Association, we are also monitoring all national, state and local guidance and updates. On top of that, we are consulting our Medical Director if there are any other precautions we need to take.
The wellness of our clients and team is our top priority. We are being very diligent to keep everyone safe and healthy. We have not had ANY clients or caregivers exhibit ANY symptoms. We feel good that our care is done in a home with few interactions with other people. This does not in any way lessen the serious nature of the virus and how we will address these concerns each day.
If a caregiver thinks they are exhibiting any of the symptoms, they will stay home. Jason or Cheryl will contact you to discuss other options. All efforts will be made to provide a substitute if that is what the client or family wants. Keep in mind that there is the chance that no replacement will be available. Even though this is outlined in our contract, we all need to be more mindful of this possibility in lieu of what is going on and how everyone faces the same challenges simultaneously.
All of our caregivers will continue to be informed of all that we learn as we move forward. This is a fluid situation that can change daily or weekly. We will continue to provide the best and most safe care for all our clients.
We will put our heart and soul into helping our clients just as we have done for 28 years. We hope conditions improve across our country and state as quickly as possible so we can all resume our normal daily routines.
Thank you for being our loyal clients.
We at North Oakland Caregivers would like to recognize our clients this month as we honor National Senior Health and Fitness Day.
Health and well-being of our seniors is the focus of our efforts every day – after all, senior care is our specialty. However, genuinely caring for our clients goes above and beyond our professional duty. We talk to them on the phone, sometimes we cheer them up with flowers if we hear from a caregiver that they are going through a rough spot. We even visit them with a lunch of their choice if we know this will put them in a good mood!
And we believe our clients feel the genuine interest and concern we have for them and pay us back with great trust, friendly chats and amazing recommendations. But this is a topic for another time! For now we leave you with this picture from the latest visit to one of our clients in Clarkston, MI; it left both us and the client smiling.
In the picture: North Oakland Caregivers President Lance Baylis with a client
Lance Baylis, North Oakland Caregivers’ President, with his mother, Maria Baylis
May is the special time of year when we celebrate the most important person in our lives, the person who gave us life, love and the entire world. What she has done for us is hard to top. So, how to best say we love her? What would be the perfect way to express our gratitude? How to show care to the best caregiver of the world?
We ask these questions every year, and there are some traditional ways that we choose – recent trends* show that:
- Almost all of us buy a greeting card – 78%
- Fewer, but still the majority, buy flowers – 67%
- Half of us organize a special outing – 55%
- Many prefer to give her a freedom to choose a gift with a gift card – 43%
- Third of us selects clothing items or jewelry – 35% each
They are all precious and special gifts. After all, we want the best for our Mom! However, what she will remember most would probably be something that is not material at all – how we made her feel. This may not be new but it is always magical.
So, go ahead and – along with the card and the flowers – give your Mom a reason to laugh, spend time reminiscing together, relive the moments of your family’s life, make more memories!
“I will have my Mom over and grill up a storm,” says North Oakland Caregivers’ President, Lance Baylis. “I want her to have a great day surrounded by the family.”
*Source: National Retail Federation, 2016
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